while the cats away..

..so over the weekend I went out with a few of my army wives for a "ladies nite"

or so I thought...

i don't know bout most of ya'll ladies but it seems like the clubbing scene is just a place to hook up & look for mr. or mrs. right now. I personally love to go out drink, dance & have fun..not go look for people to play with. I was very annoyed that some of my friends were leaving us quite a bit to "go to the bathroom" when all the while they were out scouting for guys to "play with" ..ay to each his own, but don't come out for a ladies nite if ya want to play around with guys, nxt thing you know random guys are hangin around our table coz they apparently found out our husbands are deployed so that means no man around & sexually frustrated women! F U! we don't need a deployment boyfriend!

& the nerve of some single soldiers out at the clubs! man you guys are cold! haven't you heard "karma's a bitch?!" Imagine if you're out deployed in some war ravaged country worrying about your life & imagine some soldier doing the same thing you're trying to do with your wife back home? don't like it huh? idiot..

actually it isn't the guys fault..men will be men..especially single men..but if you're a married wife? you don't need to be going out to a club & saying you wanna look for a guy to mess with & leave your girls half the time to go look for them..that's not a good look, have some dignity in yourself, I'm not trying to be on any high horse or anything but it's about time women start portraying themselves as strong real women & not Lil girls playing games.


and of course that's the last time I'm going to go to a ladies nite..well I can't say that, I still love to go out, just not with the little girls..I'ma go out with the real ladies..the ones who don't need male attention to get them excited..(unless its our husbands) ;)

Peace & Love!

I'm not that weak!

For the past how many months, I have been without a man, I think I've been doing ok..considering all the shit I have to put up with and yes, while I may rant ever so often about how I can't handle it all the time..that's exactly what I've been doing - handling it!

what is 'it'?

well a couple of us army wives, have decided to go out on the town tomorrow nite..get loose get drunk have fun etc etc..and then one of the girl's cousin's (who is also in the army and promised her deployed husband he would take care of his family esp wifey)..anyways so he asks where we are heading out to..I gave a club that was hosting a ladies nite promo event, & so we're told that place is dangerous, fights happen all the time, not to go there blah blah blah..great now the other girls are scared. OK first of all, bitch is from Fiji, I have seen many club fights in my lifetime lol

second of all, wtf who is goin to the club to frikin fight? I'm jus sayin if some guys wana hash it out at the club doesn't mean I'm going to be dumb and jump in the middle of it, I ain't into drama like that..I can be drunk as a skunk & still know to get out of the way..

I don't know it kinda irked me that we were getting instructions on how & where to go out..I understand the protecting his fam part but I ain't no kid & I don't go out with any..& have they seen the clubs out here? there's like ten cop cars parked outside every club & st lol

Don't get me wrong, I love the thought of having a strong male 'bodyguard' by our side but I like to think that the men know we can handle ourselves for a few hours without them...

time to bring out the rebel ;) I'm goin to do how I always do, have fun when, how & where I want..just don't hang up if I'm calling from jail lol I'm kidding! G'nite!

Peace & Love

yep this is another deployment rant!

I would just like to say deployments sux balls!!!! The crap you have to deal with while they are away & especially when they are away, it's just frikin ridiculous. I gotta deal with this whole "deployment husbands away poor you" shit & of course frustrated in so many ways emotionally, physically & most importantly sexually! & its not only the crap we have to deal with on the home front but I gotta deal with what my husband is dealing with as well, which means I get the brunt of all his frustrations out there & it sux but why do I feel like I would rather bear the brunt of his frustrations then have him let it out on his workmates & potentially get him in trouble? & because of that I get frustrated with him & of course he gets the blame & its just one big circle of love..or rather lack thereof. Man I swear it's just not right to keep men away from their families for a whole year & give them only 2wks off, c'mon can't they spare at least 6 out of 52???! I for one am not embarrassed to say I cannot cope with deployments, I'm not army strong right now so what?! It's like living 2 different lifestyles & the transition time between them isn't cutting it...so GOD PLEASE GIVE ME THE STRENGTH TO SURVIVE THESE TIMES CAUSE HE KNOWS I'M TRYING MY HARDEST OUT HERE.

(goin to take it out on the elliptical & a nice hot cuppa green tea) Goodnight!

Peace & LOVE (lots of it)

mai kana!!

"mai kana" ..Fijian saying which translates to "come eat"
something you will commonly hear back in Fiji while walking by someones house..
I remember walking to school & I always walked extra slow by my dear friend Anaseini's (RIP) house, her mom always had a huge breakfast waiting for them, pies & cakes & tea (for breakfast?!! i know right?!!) & of course Ana's mum would always extend the invitation to "come eat" It isn't a suprise that us islanders love our food, we take pride in our food & how it brings everyone together whether its for a celebration or just hanging out with friends at school during lunch hour, all putting in money to buy a serving of food to share..and all the odd meals common in almost every house, maggi noodles eaten cooked or raw (similar to Ramen) long loaf (tastes like french bread) breakfast crackers which is commonly known as biscuits (not the southern biscuits they have at KFC lol) and for special occasions "LOVO" (similar to the hawaiian "imu" or earth oven). What inspired me to blog about fiji food is when I went to the Asian Pacific market today & I found guava jam, which instantly took me back to my aunty cooking jam in her kitchen the aroma filling the whole house & everyone waiting for afternoon tea with biscuits, butter & guava jam..just Heaven!! Its funny how back when we were at home we never really appreciated all the comforts of these different foods, not until we travel halfway across the world, live away & when we see something in the shop that almost resembles the original back home, only then do we realise how much we miss the food & how its a definite part of our culture & our lifestyles. Like they say 'there's no place like home" I add on "there's no food like Fiji food"!

Peace & Love!!