life decisions over the phone!

having your partner away makes it hard to plan together, having them away for a whole year, thats another story. this year 2010 in Nov was suppose to be our last as a military family, but my husband extended another year so that he could join his unit as they deploy to afghan, he had been training with them so what the hell then, we're still faced with the decision whether to stay in or leave, i know for a fact he's tired of the army life, being away from his kids for a long time & he isnt the only one, I too have had it with him being away all the time & feeling like I'm a single parent & having him gone almost all our married life..its just not for us. the one thing i absolutely hate is that we have to make these decisions & plans over the phone whenever he can get time to, i think these decisions need to be face to face & more personal than a phone call..but military families have been doing this for decades if not centuries! the army has been good with providing us with healthcare & other benefits but at some point we have to realise the army isnt the only one that can provide & that our family will always comes first & that means growing, living, learning & building together. yeah i'll admit there are times when im thankful he's a thousand miles away from me but that doesnt compare to the days I dont or the days when mady wants to see her daddy. once we get out, I expect its going to be a struggle but Im hopeful we will get through & look back at our military days as an experience that taught us the value of love, life & the strength of a family